One of my readers have sent me an email, describing her problems, and here i try to help her.



Firstly I hope that you all read my article by all of your heart. I hope this will help you, even a little!

If possible please read my article as much as you can. I’m sure that it won’t hurt you; it won’t cause any problem for you, this is a part of more than 10 years of my cognitive efforts.

 

Wise man use problems and conflicts for to improve him/herself.

The fact that our parents may get divorced when we are teenager and vulnerable is not only your problem, but of a lot of teenagers and young people in all over the world, but the point we should act in the best way. When we have a problem, when we feel not good, that’s a sign, that’s an opportunity to improve our self.

 

Yes I haven’t experience that but please consider that when we have a problem or pain, we shouldn’t give up. We have to use any situation or problem or pain in order to make our self better and better and this is a eternal process in the life of any wise person.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Now you are an adult, you should support yourself, and additionally other people, regardless of your gender. Whether you are a girl, a women, a man or a boy, that’s not very important, you are human and your should and you have to live strong.

So please forget the reality that you haven’t experienced that support that you could get from your father. That’s just childish and you are not a child anymore.

 

 Yes you talked about your love story and your love. Have you ever thought about the fact that we are responsible about our behaviors and thoughts? If you are aware about the consequences of your current behaviors, that’s ok.

But I think you didn’t use to be aware. Be aware about the consequence of your behaviors.

For example when you decide to begin a romantic relationship with someone, please make anything clear for yourself and for your partner.

 If you like to get married with him, why shouldn’t you say that? Even indirectly.

 

That’s my theory and I believe that we should make everything clear and moreover we should be always aware that our current thoughts and behaviors make our future!

 

Life is just a try, just a try. Always try to do something, get something and make your life better and in this way, the problems and barriers are natural. We are living in the nature not in heaven! So act responsibly and be patient.

Even you don’t need to think about your age, that’s a human made concept(as other concepts! ) and you should live strong and without negative thoughts.

 

You talked also about violations. Yes I can’t even imagine that but please read this quote again:

That which does not kill us makes us stronger
Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Sometimes think about the people who are in charge of war. Sometimes think about wild life. Our lives are much more secured, believe me.

  

Please believe me that although our past life has a remarkable effect on our current feelings but even here you have the right to select and make your own life. You can change yourself.

 

Please be patient, I repeat that you are living in the world. Moreover you should manage your relations, if you don’t have an ideal relation with flat mate for example or at the work place, at least a part of your life will have a lot of problems.

So the result will be dissatisfaction.

 

You want to make yourself free. 10 years ago I decided to do this. I read a lot of books. I saw a lot of wise/unwise people to make myself better. But I didn’t give up. So if you want to live better, so start it.

In your country, there are a lot of wise and experienced people. The most of them use sport for self-improvement as well. Just search them and you will find them.

 

So I review my suggestions:

1-be strong and patient

2-reconstruct your fundamental beliefs

3-live and act independently but with harmony

4-always try and try. That’s life.

5-don’t forget to be practice different sports (if possible!)

6-define your goals exactly, so that you will live according your goals, much more easier. unimportant things won't annoy you.

7- Try yourself! and don’t anticipate the world to give you happiness

 

Forgive me if I couldn’t write a perfect reply for you.